Marsha Stacey

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I am a wife and attorney, mama and judge, daughter and amateur photographer, sister and book-lover, Southerner and friend. I love writing about juggling the multiple hats I wear while not completely losing my mind, and how growing up later, rather than sooner, is not always a bad thing. My law office is the old post office on our town square, and sometimes, when I unlock my door, I feel like I’m living in a Eudora Welty short story.

Before I started law school at 32 with a four month old, I had the following jobs: waitress, jewelry sales person, clothing sales person, campaign manager, secretary, real estate agent, waitress again, junior high English teacher, high school English teacher, college English professor, waitress for the third time, administrative assistant to the County Prosecutor, freelance writer, photographer, and I’m sure several more that I have chosen to forget about. I ran for the office I now hold while I was trying to study for the bar exam. I won the election, but I failed the bar, and had to take it again, which turned out to be a beautiful lesson in my own limitations.

The most interesting person I know is my five-year-old son, Mac. He taught me how to crank our four-wheeler when he was three, has an imaginary friend named Frankie who lives in his pocket, and loves to go fishing and hunting with his daddy. He corrects me on the difference between a front-end loader and an excavator, wants to be a farmer when he grows up, and can’t wait to turn 10 so he can mow the grass by himself.  I’m pretty o.k. with my husband cutting the grass and him staying five.

I was born and raised in Canton, Mississippi, and feel privileged to be rearing my children there now, surrounded by generations of love, joy, and wisdom. You may remember Canton from the movie A Time to Kill. I was an extra in the movie, and Matthew McConahey is even hotter in person. I spent my freshman and sophomore years of college in God’s country, Oxford, Mississippi, at Ole Miss, and leaving is one of my biggest regrets. My husband played defensive end at Auburn, which is both sexy and tragic all at the same time. I lived in London, England, for about six months in my twenties, and though I’ve been through a lot of school, it was the best education of my life. Being Southern is as much a part of me as is being female. I like football, I really like SEC football, but I love Ole Miss football.

More random things about me:

-I got engaged after dating my husband for 7 weeks, and I didn’t want an engagement ring. I finally got one after 8 years of marriage, and it was well worth the wait.

-I am now 38 and pregnant with my second (and last) baby; we didn’t find out if our Mac was a boy or a girl until he was born, and we are not finding out this baby’s gender, either. All of my friends hate me for it.

-My favorite book in the whole wide world is To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee; my favorite contemporary writer is Greg Iles.

-Anytime I visit a new city, I go to the local cemetery to take pictures.

-I think marriage is hard.

-I am a Christ-follower.

-I am fiercely protective of my friends.

-My husband knows that if Taylor Kitsch (Riggins of Friday Night Lights) showed up on my doorstep, all bets are off.

-I come from a long line of strong women.

-When I see my husband in a baseball cap, I get butterflies in my stomach.

-The people I admire and respect the most are givers.

-I cry every time I hear “The Star Spangled Banner.”

-I believe in the power of prayer.

-I didn’t know what my purpose was in life was until I became a judge; I didn’t know how aching, jubilant, debilitating, and all-encompassing love could be until I became a mother.

I hope I have something to share with you that will be worth reading. I hope when it is, you will let me know…because I want to hear your stories as much as I want you to read mine.